Jan 6, 2015

Don't marry or Don't work

Gandhi devoted his life to the freedom movement. Between all the politicos and the political activities, he had little time for his family. 

Jan 4, 2015

Aching legs and the blocked noses

Yesterday was horrible! New-born's blocked nose ensured he couldn't sleep for more than 15 min at a stretch and older kiddo's aching legs caused her severe discomfort. Nobody was sleeping; nobody was going to sleep either!

Eventually, Everybody did! Around 2:15AM.

The important thing to remember is that during the first few years of the new born, he/she would demand your time. Its time to set the priorities right. We will not be able to do all the things that we were able to do earlier. Working late, reading books, watching movies, going out..

Its time to drop what is not essential and focus on what's important. And even though I know it and understand it, doesn't make it any easy.

Today was much better! A pillow beneath him and all the sleep deprivation from yesterday had new-born returning to his usual sleeping patterns. Wife cooked Chowmein, Mum made Gajar ka halva and kiddo is back to jumping and climbing (on my back)!

For me, the website took some more shape and I managed to read the first few pages of "People's history of the United States". Not complaining!

Jan 3, 2015

2015 - The year of the Habit

'N' had said it and though I can't remember the quote verbatim, it was something to the tune of - 
"You can go about doing things and if you are lucky, what you'll do may help you achieve success. But if you don't want to leave your success to chance, build the right set of habits. You'll achieve your success and it'll be a lot smoother" 
And while we can debate what constitute the "right set of habits", I have deferred that answer for a while. I'll just focus on building a habit and let's see where that takes me.

Habit 1: I'll try and reach office by 9:30AM 

This one did not last at all. The first day itself, I was delayed. And once I realised that I won't make it to office by 9:30AM, I was irritated for the rest of the day. It ruined my day at the office, it ruined my time at home and the first half of Jan 2nd ruffled my feathers a little. 

Peter Banner introduced me to the fascinating concept of "keystone habit". Reaching office at 9:30AM can't be a keystone habit, he says! Its too complex, too big, too interdependent and therefore designed for failure. Amidst traffic, the baby, the travel, the older kid, the wife, the laziness, its bound to fail. And by fail, he means, it can't be done everyday with 100% certainty.  

(Keystone) Habit 2: Write a blog entry everyday

I had resolved to do this everyday since my 35th birthday! It never happened. Hopefully now it will! This post is the first of the many posts of what would be my daily habit of 2015. This was supposed to be written yesterday and I missed it.

And I missed it because I wanted to do it differently (perfectly). There were open questions that need to be sorted out -
  1. Should these posts be open to everyone or just for my own readership? 
  2. If I leave them open, can I be honest about the day?
  3. Which platform should I use? Blogger or Medium or Wordpress or something else?
  4. What should be the name of the blog?
  5. Should I instead just code a blogging software? Have it password protected wherein you can simply put in the password to read the blog post.
If there is a learning from Yavvy, its this - Perfect is the enemy! Good is great! 

Just Ship it! 

This blog entry took over 4 hours! It started but it was interrupted, repeatedly! Definite indication that this habit is moving towards its own demise! So here are the ground rules - 
  1. I should be able to get these posts out in 10 minutes max.
  2. So that I don't waste time thinking about the topic or subject, 
    1. I will remember to put the topic of my next post in the previous post OR
    2. If I don't put any topic, the post will be about the events of the day
  3. There will be no more rules because if I add anymore, this activity won't remain fun anymore!

Final - Habit for 2015 

Write a blog entry everyday for max 15 minutes about the events of the day

Mar 30, 2014

Oh prime minister

Wife points to the photograph of Arvind Kejriwal in the newspaper and asks kiddo.
"Who is this man in white cap"
"Arvind Kejriwal", replies kiddo.

"Who is the woman in saree"
"Sonia Gandhi",  kiddo points out.

"And this man in the blue turban"
Kiddo thinks for a while and then replies matter of factly "A Sardar"

Mar 14, 2014

Indisciplined Perfectionist

This post may sound a little vain, but I couldn't find any way to make it sound less so. I wrote this here because I wanted to capture a certain realisation about myself and remember it (and share it with you).

On a casual conversation with "the-better-half", I remarked that my achievements don't quite measure up to my aptitude. I mean, considering my general capabilities, I should have been more successful. She was quick to attribute this to my general indiscipline.

According to wife, if I slept earlier and woke up earlier, I would have been much more successful.

I don't think that's the case. I think my bigger flaw here is my perfectionist nature, a general desire to achieve a perfect solution! This coupled with my indiscipline is probably the biggest reason for most of my failures. I end up setting a really lofty goal and then botch up the execution.

Notes to self

  • Perfect is the enemy, Good is great! Don't try to maximise your benefit.
  • When you execute a plan, make realistic timelines and stick to them no matter what! 
When you get punched in the face, don't think about the gold medal or the glory! Think about how you'll duck the next punch.

Mar 4, 2014

The Universal conspiracy to get you what you want

A gentleman, I met yesterday, quoted the alchemist repeatedly. “When you really want something to happen, the whole universe conspires to help you achieve it.”

He was upbeat, excited and clueless!

Would I be a cynic if I told him that the universe doesn’t give a rat’s ass! I mean have you ever seen a rat’s ass? The Universe probably made it just to tell us what it thinks of us and how insignificant we really are to it.

Which is why I think we should shove this indifference back into the universe’s face! Sounds good but how do we do it?  

Well the only currency you and universe transact in, is your time on earth!  Make that time count. Don't spend it on the universe! Do what you think is the most important thing to do! Do it because you want to do it. Not for some greater good or to change the world or to make your name count! Not for religion, or money, or fame or love! But because it makes you happy!

Strong Advise: Try not to make anybody else unhappy! Sooner or later people you made unhappy during your happiness-endeavors would come back to make you unhappy!  

There. Now my advise is totally fool-proof and can not be used by terrorists, rapist, murderers and govt bureaucrats! 

Sep 18, 2010

Eat More, Win More, Love More

I don’t know if it happens to everyone but it sure does happen to me. If I cut down on my food, my hunger itself begins to contract. By the seventh day, I am quite full at half of my original intake.

Strangely, I never really realized, but it is exactly the same behavior with a lot of other things too.

Love, you miss them a lot then you miss them little.

Dreams, if you don’t taste success, the hunger slowly dwindles.

Eat more to keep eating more; win more to keep winning more; love more to keep loving more!

Dec 4, 2009

Really Disparaging Review of Kurbaan

Cutting a long story short, this is a really really disparaging review of Kurbaan! This has been done to ensure that Messenger Baba shows his true potential and opens his fourth eye!

About time we had some fun on this blog! ..err space! ..umm sphere!

Oct 10, 2009

Fitness of the Darwinian Survivor

I don’t believe in luck. The simple argument is that if there is something called luck; somebody should be lucky enough to live forever (physically).

I do however believe in probability. It’s easier to explain the randomness through probability; it’s impartial, it’s unemotional; it’s less distressing if most things don’t happen the way you planned them.

And now even the probability theory is beginning to look so useless. If it’s so random, what is the point of associating probability with it? Even if I calculate the probability of something to be 99.9999% and yet the thing that had a probability of less than 0.0001% happens, what’s the use of chasing the 99% activity? The other point of view is that since that can happen, even if you had a 0.0001% chance of success, you can still emerge on top of those who had 99% chance.

So what does it mean, should we strive for everything? Or should we strive for nothing? Or should we simply espouse the chance game and chase the activity that has a higher probability of happening.

I think success is simply about survival. If you survive, you succeed. Its not about survival of the fittest; its about whoever survived must be the fittest.
PS: Sorry for the rambling; I'd surely edit this post and add some perspective.

May 2, 2009

Congress' Masterpiece

They cordon off a part of the pavement, the place where the common man walks, blocking his way, forcing him to detour down on the motor infested roads of New Delhi, to put a poster saying "Aam aadmi ke badhte kadam"

We'v indeed matured as a democracy. Now they don't even try to comouflage their utter disregard for what they promise during elections.

Don't just laugh it off. Please go and vote!!